How to Support a Friend Through Miscarriage: 5 Gift Ideas That Actually Help

When someone you love experiences a miscarriage, it’s hard to know what to say, and even harder to know what to give. You want to show up. You want to ease the pain. But the truth is, there’s no “fixing” it.

Still, there are thoughtful ways to say: “I see you. I’m here. You are not alone.”

Whether it’s their first loss or one of many, these 5 heartfelt gift ideas can offer comfort, care, and quiet support when words simply aren’t enough.

1. Comfort Clothing for Grief and Healing

Clothing may not be the first thing you think of after loss, but for women navigating miscarriage, what they wear can deeply impact how they feel.

Look for soft, breathable loungewear made for rest and comfort. Clothing that doesn’t feel restrictive, triggering, or overly “put together.”

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2. A Journal or Grief Notebook

Writing can help process complex emotions when speaking them feels impossible. A beautiful, blank journal gives your friend a safe space to reflect, cry, rage, or simply be.

Choose a journal with no pressure to perform - no prompts, no rules. Just paper, healing, and time.

Pair it with a handwritten note from you that says:

“You don’t have to use this now. Just know I’m here whenever you do.”

3. Nourishing Food (That Doesn’t Expect Anything in Return)

Food is a form of love. But in the early days of grief, even cooking or accepting a meal can feel like too much.

Instead of asking what they need, simply drop off:

• A homemade soup or nourishing one-bowl meal

• A comforting snack box

• Herbal teas for rest and digestion

Bonus: add a note that says, “No need to reply. Just thinking of you.”

4. Books That Speak to Grief Without Trying to Fix It

There are a few incredible books that speak directly to pregnancy loss with grace and raw honesty. Some gentle suggestions:

• “Unexpecting” by Rachel Lewis

• “The Miscarriage Map” by Dr. Sunita Osborn

• “I Had a Miscarriage” by Jessica Zucker

Include a message: “This book helped others. Only read it when/if you feel ready.”

5. Something That Lasts But Doesn’t Demand Attention

Sometimes the best gift is simply something to hold on to. Something that says “this happened” and “you’re not forgotten.”

That could be:

• A small piece of jewelry with a birthstone or heart

• A candle with an intentional message

• A handwritten card to open later

Grief is not linear. And miscarriage is often an invisible grief, but your gesture makes it visible. You’re saying: “Your loss matters. And so do you.”

Final Thoughts

There’s no perfect gift for miscarriage. But offering comfort, not solutions, is everything. Don’t wait for the “right” moment. Just show up, quietly and consistently. Your presence means more than you know.

If you're looking for a way to send comfort that lasts beyond the moment, explore our healing apparel collection created to support women through grief, fertility loss, and emotional healing.

Because sometimes, comfort is what you wear.